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I had an unusual experience this week at my skin cancer multidisciplinary meeting when after a decision had been made for a patient to have surgery the Oncologist emailed me to say I should not carry out surgery as radiotherapy would be the better option. When I said the patient did not want surgery the Oncologist said they would like to the patient. I found the experience odd and chatted to another colleague to ask what this was all about. He turned to me and said "ego".
It is difficult tp build a healthy work team or a healthy home relationship with people who are filled with ego, pride, and arrogance. I then thought about my own behaviour and hoped I was not on of these difficult individuals with an ego and found an interesting article on how to prevent from having a big ego and will share the tips.
1. Don’t ever think you know it all … because the fact is … you don’t.
Arrogant people think they know it all … or at least pretend they do. So they often want to start at the top. They want a position that recognizes their extra-special talent.
In contrast, non-arrogant, non-difficult people are willing to start where they can fit in. They’re willing to listen and learn.
2. Don’t ever think you’re above hard work … because you aren’t.
We all know in our line of work some people who are big on talk but short on action. They like to talk about all the things they’re GOING to do but never get around to DOING anything.
Th Author Waldo Waldman says, “The winners in life create the reality of their futures in their minds, but then take action to make it happen. They understand that W-I-N stands for ‘work it now,’ and realize the beautiful premise that in order to win, sometimes you just have to sweat and sacrifice, period!”
Difficult people, people with oversized egos, and people filled with arrogance forget the W-I-N part. They feel “entitled” to benefits … without working for them … or feel they’re just plain “lucky.”
The truth is … to all big-headed difficult people … you’re not lucky and you’re not above hard work. Ray Kroc, the founder of McDonald’s, knows. He said, “Luck is a dividend of diligence. The harder you sweat … the luckier you get.”
3. Don’t ever think you’re better than others … because you’re not.
Arrogant people think they are pretty hot or rather cool, however you want to phrase it. But they’re not as powerful as they want you to think they are.
The trouble is … arrogant people often think the rules do not apply to them. They think they are better than that. Unfortunately, ego-driven, difficult people have a hard time recognizing their own faults and changing them.
It is good to remember the difference between prominence and significance. For example, your nose is prominent, but if you lose your nose, it’s not a big deal. But if you lose your liver, it’s significant. You die. The arrogant, difficult people behaviours may make them prominent, but that is a far cry from being significant.
4. Do not ever make excuses for your performance … because you are responsible for what you do.
A well known American football coach emphatically pronounced that the best players “never alibi.” They never blame and they never complain. They take responsibility for their own performance … while the arrogant ones, he said, are almost always “big complainers” and “lousy players.”
A final word to those affected by ego, pride, and arrogance and being difficult people. Be very careful when you speak out. And be aware of those times when you should shut up. As the infamous Will Rogers put it, “After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you’re full of bull, keep your mouth shut.”
Anyways, I enjoyed reading the article on egos and have shared the wisdom. I also will make surge my ego does not inflate and I will have to tolerate my ego driven colleague.
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"It is a common experience that a problem difficult at night is resolved in the morning after the committee of sleep has worked on it."
-- John Steinbeck
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