OBLIGER

SUMMARY: OBLIGER
LIKELY STRENGTHS:
Good boss, responsive leader, team player
Feels great obligation to meet others’ expectations
Responsible
Willing to go the extra mile
Responds to outer accountability
POSSIBLE WEAKNESSES:
Susceptible to overwork and burnout
May show the destructive pattern of Obliger-rebellion
Exploitable
May become resentful
Has trouble saying no or imposing limits


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SUMMARY: DEALING WITH AN OBLIGER
They readily meet outer expectations but struggle to meet inner expectations
They put a high value on meeting commitments to others
They succeed when given accountability, with supervision, deadlines, monitoring, and other forms of accountability,
such as the duty to be a good role model
They may have trouble setting limits on others’ demands
They may have trouble delegating, because they feel that some expectations attach to them personally
They must have systems of external accountability in order to meet inner expectations
They may be exploited by people who take advantage of them, and because of that…
They may feel resentful or burned out, in which case…
They may need managers or others to alleviate expectations, or they may rebel