Life is relatively short and nothing is guaranteed.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to reality and how the world really is.
So let that reminder be a wake-up call to live your life today! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of life either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take positive action today. Death is not the greatest loss in life, neither is injury. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive and capable.
So even when life gets messy, be bold, be courageous, be a scared to death, and then take the next step anyway. Invest your heart and soul into whatever you have right in front of you. Bring passion into otherwise ordinary moments… Love what you do, until you can do what you love. Love where you are, until you can be where you love. Love the people you’re with, until you can be with the people you love most. This is the way we find more happiness, opportunity, and peace on the average day.
2. Everything will change again soon.
Embrace change and realize that it’s necessary. It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end most forms of change are worthwhile because they force us to grow. So keep yourself in check right now…
What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening — like all the senseless violence and drama we see in our world today.
So just remember, however good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. Accept it. Breathe. Be where you are. You’re where you need to be right now. There’s a time and place for everything, and every hard step is necessary. Just keep doing your best, and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. When it’s meant to be, it will be.
3. Changing your response is what puts you back in control.
Have patience with everything that remains imperfect or unfinished in your head and heart. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard to stay true to your intuition and values. This is your life, and it is governed by your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your daily choices preach louder than your lips. May your inner sense of satisfaction be your noise in the end.
nd if your present life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land — even when there are so many unknowns — be brave enough to stand up and listen to your intuition. Remember that the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because as Viktor Frankl said, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything! (Note: Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the Passion & Growth chapter of “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently”.) 4. Life’s storms can be a source of long-term strength.
Hard times are like strong storms that blow against you. And it’s not just that these storms hold you back from places you are trying to go. They also tear away from you all but the essential parts of your ego that cannot be torn, so that you are left only with the foundation of who you really are.
timately you realize you are here to endure these storms, to sacrifice your time and risk your heart. You are here to be bruised by life. And when it happens that you are hurt, or betrayed, or rejected, let yourself sit quietly with your eyes closed and remember all the good times you had, and all the sweetness you tasted, and everything you learned. Tell yourself how amazing it was to live, and then open your eyes and live some more.
Because to never struggle would be to never grow. You must let go of who you were so you can become who you are. Again, it is within the depths of the strongest and darkest storms that you often discover within you an inextinguishable light, and it is this light that illuminates the path forward.
5. You don’t need all the answers right now.
Accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you are going, and train yourself to love and appreciate this sensation of freedom. Because it is only when you are suspended in the air, with no destination in sight, that you force your wings to open fully so you can fly. And as you soar around you still may not know where you’re traveling to. But that’s not what’s important. What’s important is the opening of your wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as your wings are spread, the winds will carry you forward.
Truth be told, some of the greatest outcomes that transpire in your life will be the ones you never even knew you wanted. As long as you keep your mind open to new perspectives and yourself moving forward, there really are no totally wrong turns in life, only paths you didn’t know you were meant to travel. And you never can be certain what’s around the corner. It could be everything, or it could be nothing. You keep gliding steadily forward, and then one day you realize you’ve come a long way from where you started.
All details aside, someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good outcomes will likely transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And you will look back at the messy times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself…
“How in the world did I get through all of that?”
Now, it’s your turn…
Yes, it’s your turn to give yourself grace for the times when you lacked clarity, and for the poor choices that accidentally hurt others or yourself. Give yourself grace for being young and reckless and unaware. We’ve all made mistakes, and we’ve all been foolish and forgetful at times. These are all vital lessons. And what matters most right now is the willingness to learn and grow from them.
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22 paradoxes that will surely change your life
The Opportunity Paradox
Take on less, accomplish more. Success doesn't come from taking on every opportunity. It comes from deploying energy on the opportunities that matter-the 10x opportunities
The Looking Paradox
Sometimes you have to stop looking in order to find what you're looking for.
The Brakes Paradox
Build brakes into your life that allow you to accelerate and hit turns without fear.
The Money Paradox
You have to risk losing money in order to make money
The Failure Paradox
You have to fail more to succeed more. Our greatest periods of growth often stem directly from our greatest moments of failure
The Time Paradox
You have to know your death in order to truly live your life.
The Fear Paradox
The thing we fear the most is often the thing we most need to do Make a habit of getting closer to your fears. Treat them as magnete for your energy. You may find growth on the other side
The Fancy Car Paradox
You see a fancy car and dream of the respect you'd get by driving it while ignoring the person actuaily in it. We all want respect. We believe fancy stuff will earn it. It won't
The Wisdom Paradox
The more you learn, the more you are exposed to the immense unknown. This should be empowering, nat frightening.
The Abilene Paradox
Groups can collectively make a decision that runs counter to the actual individual preferences of many members of the group. The natural desire to avoid rocking the boat prevents people from speaking up.
The Locksmith Paradox
As the locksmith improves at his craft, customers become upset by the lower time input required to deliver a fixed output Same results, but the perception of value changed.
The Advice Paradox
Taking more advice leaves you less well-equipped. Winners learn to filter and selectively implement advice-take the signal, skip the noiso
The Persuasion Paradox
Persuasive people don't argue-they observe, listen, and ask questions. Argue less, persuade more
The Effort Paradox
You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.
The Productivity Paradox
Work longer, accomplish less Parkinson's Low says that work expands to fill the time available for its completion. Work like a lion instead- sprint, rest, repeat.
The Desire Paradox
Desire leads to more achievement and more suffering. Desire is a powerful force for growth, but the quest for more often distracts from the beauty of enough
The Choice Paradox
More choices, less satisfaction. In a world of abundance, what croces we truly crave is scarcity.
The Destruction Paradox
Those who seek to destroy us sometimes spark the fire that allows us to grow. The injection of chaos makes you stronger.
The Growth Paradox
Growth happens gradually, then suddenly. The best things in life come from allowing compounding to work its magic
The Social Media Paradox
More connectedness, less connected
The Speed Paradox
Sometimes you have to slow down to speed up. Slowing down gives you the time to be deliberate with your actions
The Action Paradox
Sometimes inaction is the most powerful action. Action is about progress. Stillness-inaction-can create it
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